Ok, forgive, but are you being forgiven?
I think I’ve figured something out.
You know, every once in a while, you seem to step on a person’s toes without knowing it. You really didn’t do anything wrong, they just came and placed their foot under yours at the last moment and it would be really easy to blame them for getting themselves hurt. When a person gets mad at you for something that’s not your fault, it takes a lot to forgive them when they blame the incident on you. But there is a lot of benefit in forgiving them. Likewise, what I figured out is that it also is a very loving gesture to ask them to forgive you, even when you didn’t do anything wrong. I’ll tell you why.
Carrying around anger is a really bad habit to get into. It affects a person’s mental and physical health. Anyone who watches Oprah knows that, right? So, we all struggle to forgive those who trespass against us. But how many of us ask others to forgive us, even when we haven’t done anything wrong that we know of. If you love a person, whether it be because they are related to you, or you’ve shared good times with them, or just because they are your fellow human, you don’t want that person to go through pain. Sincerely asking them to forgive you makes it that much easier for them to release the anger they are feeling towards you, whether its misplaced anger or not, it doesn’t matter.
I can’t take full credit for this light bulb moment. It was a friend who said to me the other night that it’s good to be forgiving but are you being forgiven?
You know, every once in a while, you seem to step on a person’s toes without knowing it. You really didn’t do anything wrong, they just came and placed their foot under yours at the last moment and it would be really easy to blame them for getting themselves hurt. When a person gets mad at you for something that’s not your fault, it takes a lot to forgive them when they blame the incident on you. But there is a lot of benefit in forgiving them. Likewise, what I figured out is that it also is a very loving gesture to ask them to forgive you, even when you didn’t do anything wrong. I’ll tell you why.
Carrying around anger is a really bad habit to get into. It affects a person’s mental and physical health. Anyone who watches Oprah knows that, right? So, we all struggle to forgive those who trespass against us. But how many of us ask others to forgive us, even when we haven’t done anything wrong that we know of. If you love a person, whether it be because they are related to you, or you’ve shared good times with them, or just because they are your fellow human, you don’t want that person to go through pain. Sincerely asking them to forgive you makes it that much easier for them to release the anger they are feeling towards you, whether its misplaced anger or not, it doesn’t matter.
I can’t take full credit for this light bulb moment. It was a friend who said to me the other night that it’s good to be forgiving but are you being forgiven?
posted by Just Ruthie at 4:05 AM
1 Comments:
Actually, Cee has very small feet.
Forgiving yourself- yah, now that's something to ponder. I think you've hit the nail on the head- that was exactly the problem. Thanks for pointing that out to me. :-) Yah I need to forgive myself for not knowing better, too.
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